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Therapy, Support, and Events for Your Wellness Journey

At Elite Counselling & Consulting, we provide in-person psychotherapy in Bowmanville and virtual therapy across Ontario, with a clinical focus of mindset therapy, couples therapy, and perinatal therapy (fertility, loss, pregnancy, and postpartum). We also host workshops, support groups, and psycho-educational events to support your mental health journey. Check out our calendar for upcoming events –here or email us at kosman@elitec-c.com if there’s an offering you’d like to see!

Mental Health Blog:

Aiming to share mental health resources that can be used inconjuction with and apart from psychotherapy services. Browse categories below or see our latest blogs. Reminder that engaging in content doesn’t consistute a therapist client relationship, use information at your descretion and seek support if needed. 

Latest Blogs

Shared Joy & Shared Loss: How Collective Emotion Connects Us

by | November 2, 2025 | General Mental Health | 0 Comments

  Yesterday morning, as I connected with family and friends, the Blue Jays game (World Series, Game 7) came up repeatedly. It was interesting because I’m not an avid sports watcher, so this isn’t a topic people usually bring up with me. I found myself thinking...
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Light and Shadow: A Diwali Reflection on Wholeness

by | October 19, 2025 | Mindfulness, Self-Compassion, Spirituality | 0 Comments

  As Diwali approaches, I naturally pause and reflect. The celebration that reveres light also invites us to notice the light within. However, as a therapist, I’m mindful there’s what’s called the shadow self too (the parts of us we keep hidden or pretend aren’t...
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The Ripple Effect of Conversations in Perinatal Mental Health

by | October 5, 2025 | General Mental Health, Inter-Generational, Perinatal mental health, Social Justice, Trauma | 0 Comments

One of the things I love most about working in the field of mental health is seeing the ripple effect that grows from conversations. Every dialogue matters. Whether it’s sitting with a client in a therapy session, sharing stories in a community group, or connecting...
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The Iceberg of Relationship Conflict: What Lies Beneath Silent Distance and Contempt

by | September 21, 2025 | Anger, Relationship Issues | 0 Comments

Conflict in relationships is rarely just about the dishes or the bills. What looks like nagging, silence, or sarcasm is often the tip of the iceberg, with unmet needs and unspoken dreams hidden beneath the surface.

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How EMDR Bridges Mind and Body: Why I Chose to Get Certified as a Therapist

by | July 14, 2025 | Anxiety, Trauma | 0 Comments

One of the most common things I see in my work is how distress shows up in the body. Clients may be experiencing anxiety, trauma, depression, or chronic stress and are often seeking relief from their thoughts, whether it's intrusive memories, flashbacks, overthinking,...
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Relationship Issues Blogs

The Iceberg of Relationship Conflict: What Lies Beneath Silent Distance and Contempt

by | September 21, 2025 | Anger, Relationship Issues | 0 Comments

Conflict in relationships is rarely just about the dishes or the bills. What looks like nagging, silence, or sarcasm is often the tip of the iceberg, with unmet needs and unspoken dreams hidden beneath the surface.

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The Power of Repair: How Small Actions Can Transform Your Relationship

by | February 10, 2025 | Relationship Issues | 0 Comments

Relationships thrive when couples learn how to repair after conflict. The power of repair lies in turning disagreements into opportunities for growth. Instead of sweeping things under the rug or letting resentments build, effective repair helps couples reconnect....
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When Marriage Feels Hard: Why I Believe in Marriage and How to Navigate Challenges

by | January 5, 2025 | Relationship Issues | 0 Comments

The first Monday of January is often referred to as “Divorce Day” by many lawyers—a day when couples, after the emotional intensity of the holidays, begin to seriously consider separation. Before making life-changing decisions, it’s worth asking: Have we truly given...
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 The Importance of Maintenance in Our Intimate Relationships: Tips to Keep Your Marriage Strong

by | August 15, 2024 | Relationship Issues | 0 Comments

  In our busy lives, it's easy to take our intimate relationships for granted, assuming that they will thrive on love alone. However, just like any other aspect of wellness, our relationships require regular maintenance to stay strong and healthy. This concept is...
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3 common relationship changes when parenting a new baby / young child(ren)

by | September 24, 2018 | Relationship Issues | 0 Comments

It's understood that becoming parents creates changes in a relationship. Some of those changes are great and many will agree are worth every bit of the hard stuff. However, when stuck in the hard stuff, it doesn't feel so great and can get really hard. This is stuff...
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3 Ways Mindful Practice Can Improve Intimate Relationships

by | August 24, 2018 | Relationship Issues | 0 Comments

Mindfulness is often spoken about in terms of wellness and self-care. While that's valid, mindfulness also has other practical applications. Of them, is using mindful practice to better our intimate relationship. Before I go on to explain 3 ways mindful practice can...
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Perinatal Blogs

The Ripple Effect of Conversations in Perinatal Mental Health

by | October 5, 2025 | General Mental Health, Inter-Generational, Perinatal mental health, Social Justice, Trauma | 0 Comments

One of the things I love most about working in the field of mental health is seeing the ripple effect that grows from conversations. Every dialogue matters. Whether it’s sitting with a client in a therapy session, sharing stories in a community group, or connecting...
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Father’s Mental Health: Breaking the Silence

by | June 15, 2025 | Anxiety, Grief, Perinatal mental health, Postpartum, Stress | 0 Comments

  Becoming a father is a huge life transition. Often painted as a time of great joy and fulfillment, this period is also marked by the challenges of sleep disruption, altered routines, relationship changes, identity shifts, financial strain, and worries about...
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Fertility and Mental Health

by | April 21, 2025 | Grief, Perinatal mental health | 0 Comments

We all have a reproductive story.   Whether we want to or plan to parent or not, most people have considered the topic of parenting at some point in their lives. The reproductive story often starts as early as young childhood, mimicking parental behaviour through...
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Breastfeeding’s Mental Load: Honoring Your Mental Health in Motherhood

by | October 26, 2024 | Perinatal mental health, Postpartum | 0 Comments

  Breastfeeding is often portrayed as a natural, instinctive part of motherhood—something your body is just supposed to know how to do. For many moms, the reality is far from the idealized image. Struggles with latch, supply, pain, and exhaustion are more common...
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Empowering New Moms: The Importance of Affirmations for Mental Well-Being

by | October 9, 2024 | Perinatal mental health, Postpartum | 0 Comments

Becoming a mom can be one of the most rewarding yet overwhelming experiences of life. From adjusting to sleepless nights to navigating new emotions, the journey is filled with challenges that often leave little room for self-compassion. This is why nurturing your...
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Part of my story…

by | November 12, 2019 | Anxiety, Mindfulness, Perinatal mental health, Postpartum, Stress | 0 Comments

My kids (especially my first) hasn't always gotten the best of me. Yet, they are the best of me. I teach them lessons, they now annoyingly remind me… like words I shouldn't say, to breathe, that it's okay, and a bad moment doesn't have to make a bad day, we get...
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Anxiety Related Blogs

How EMDR Bridges Mind and Body: Why I Chose to Get Certified as a Therapist

by | July 14, 2025 | Anxiety, Trauma | 0 Comments

One of the most common things I see in my work is how distress shows up in the body. Clients may be experiencing anxiety, trauma, depression, or chronic stress and are often seeking relief from their thoughts, whether it's intrusive memories, flashbacks, overthinking,...
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What If Your Coping Tools Are Keeping You Anxious?

by | June 30, 2025 | Acceptance, Anxiety, Mindfulness, Stress | 0 Comments

What if the things that help you feel better are also quietly keeping your anxiety going? It’s easy to assume that anxiety comes from what’s happening to us. What if part of it comes from how we respond? I recently read Building a Non-Anxious Life by Dr. John Delony,...
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Father’s Mental Health: Breaking the Silence

by | June 15, 2025 | Anxiety, Grief, Perinatal mental health, Postpartum, Stress | 0 Comments

  Becoming a father is a huge life transition. Often painted as a time of great joy and fulfillment, this period is also marked by the challenges of sleep disruption, altered routines, relationship changes, identity shifts, financial strain, and worries about...
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When You’re the One Others Lean On: How to Break the Cycle of Carrying Too Much

by | June 2, 2025 | Acceptance, Anxiety, Self-Compassion, Stress | 0 Comments

A Therapist’s Reflection In therapy and in life, I meet many people who are “the one others lean on.” You know the type who are calm in a crisis, dependable under pressure, quick to problem-solve, slow to show distress. They’re the friends, family members, and...
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The Weight of Expectations

by | February 23, 2025 | Anti-Opression, Anxiety, Inner Criticism, Inter-Generational, Social Justice, Stress, Trauma | 0 Comments

The weight of expectations is something many of us carry, often without realizing just how heavy it can be. Family plays a central role in shaping values, offering both guidance and constraints. While cultural traditions provide connection and wisdom, they can also...
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Unlock a Calmer Mind: The Power of Bilateral Stimulation for Stress and Anxiety

by | September 19, 2024 | Anxiety, Holiday stress, Mindfulness, Stress | 0 Comments

We’ve all had moments when emotions feel overwhelming, when stress or anxiety seems to build up beyond control. In those moments, having a simple, effective tool to help you feel grounded can make all the difference. One approach I often recommend is bilateral...
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Maintaining Mental Health as a Business Owner

by | July 22, 2024 | General Mental Health, Stress | 0 Comments

Running a business can be incredibly rewarding, but it also comes with its fair share of stress and challenges. As a business owner, it’s easy to become overwhelmed by the constant demands and responsibilities that come your way. However, maintaining your mental...
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Reading for Mental Health

by | June 18, 2024 | General Mental Health, Seasonal Stress, Stress | 0 Comments

  In our fast-paced, digitally-driven world, finding ways to unwind and nurture our mental well-being is more critical than ever. Though various activities can promote mental health, reading stands out as a powerful, yet often overlooked tool. Whether you’re...
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Understanding and Managing Emotional Dysregulation

by | May 29, 2024 | Anger, Anxiety, Calm, General Mental Health, Stress | 0 Comments

As a therapist, I often encounter clients struggling with emotional dysregulation—a state where their emotions feel overwhelming, uncontrollable, and disruptive to their daily lives. Emotional dysregulation can manifest in various ways, such as sudden anger outbursts,...
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Holiday Stress to Festive Burnout: Tips to get back to joy

by | December 8, 2019 | Acceptance, Holiday stress, Mindfulness, Stress | 0 Comments

Many people report experiencing “festive burnout” by mid-December... It’s easy to fall into hustle mode, feeling like there’s too much to do, too many commitments to keep, and that we’re falling short all at the same time. This can be exacerbated when we compare our...
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Social Justice Blogs

The Ripple Effect of Conversations in Perinatal Mental Health

by | October 5, 2025 | General Mental Health, Inter-Generational, Perinatal mental health, Social Justice, Trauma | 0 Comments

One of the things I love most about working in the field of mental health is seeing the ripple effect that grows from conversations. Every dialogue matters. Whether it’s sitting with a client in a therapy session, sharing stories in a community group, or connecting...
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Unlearning the Stories We Were Told: The Impact of Gender Socialization on Mental Health

by | March 9, 2025 | Anti-Opression, Social Justice | 0 Comments

The lucky among us can remember a time in childhood, when we were free. Think back—can you remember a time when judgment from others didn’t cloud your mind? When you woke up knowing exactly what you wanted to wear, and nothing could stop you? When you pursued what you...
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The Weight of Expectations

by | February 23, 2025 | Anti-Opression, Anxiety, Inner Criticism, Inter-Generational, Social Justice, Stress, Trauma | 0 Comments

The weight of expectations is something many of us carry, often without realizing just how heavy it can be. Family plays a central role in shaping values, offering both guidance and constraints. While cultural traditions provide connection and wisdom, they can also...
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Inclusivity is Not Division

by | January 28, 2025 | Anti-Opression, Social Justice, Trauma | 0 Comments

I often hear claims that DEI (diversity, equity, and inclusion) efforts “create more division.” As a therapist and social worker, I need to ask: How is inclusivity, division? To include opposes division. Inclusion is a factual antonym of the word exclusion, thus if...
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